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The 5 ‘B’s of Creating a Business with Soul

If you work for yourself, or want to, a huge part of creating a business that you love is to make sure that it mirrors how you feel on the inside, instead of being a copy of what is already ‘out there’ being done by others. Here are my five steps to creating and running a business with soul:

1. Find your BUZZ

THE fundamental part of running a business that you are passionate about is finding your buzz – that thing that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. Something that makes you excited and often doesn’t feel like work. If you have no idea what this is, then you can start by thinking about any recurring themes throughout your working life, or that you are drawn to in hobbies. You can also ask your family and friends to tell you what they think your best qualities are – this really does work and may give you an insight into your talents that you hadn’t even thought about before.  You could also try some online tests like those available at Strength Finder and 16 Personalities. Whatever you do, take note of your buzz and create your business to incorporate it.


You are going to have to wear your big girl or big boy pants for this one! Being brave about what YOU want to do in your business can actually be pretty tough, especially if you want to do things differently. Everyone will have an opinion about what you ‘should’ do, why your new business may fail or why you should do it their way – being brave is important if you are going to stand up and follow through on your own plans even when family and friends think it unwise. Surrounding yourself with people who inspire you is a great way to help you stay strong in the face of skepticism.

3. BE Yourself

According to Marie Forleo, everyone has a UAP – “Unique Awesomeness Potential”! No matter what industry you work in, there are bound to be other people doing something similar to you, but as there is only one you, your business will take on your individual personality and flavour and be something unique. Use your awesomeness to create a business that really feels right for you and brings you the success you want. People buy from people and if they like you then they will stay and you will start to build a loyal customer base.

4. BELIEVE in it

Believe in your business and in yourself and others will start to believe in you too. How much you love what you are doing comes across when you talk about your business. If you hate what you do your customers will see right through you, and likewise you will almost shine if you love it. Everything is energy and believing in your business is the only way to send out positive vibes about what you are doing and also to keep your motivation going when things are less than ideal.

5. Nurture your BUBBLE

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Image from The F**k It Way: https://www.facebook.com/thefkitlife

Although you are now well on the way, protecting your business (and you) from those who would wish you to fail is probably the most important part of creating a business with soul. You’ve done all the hard work setting up your business but are seldom taught how to energetically protect it or yourself. The simplest and easiest way to do this is to start every day by visualising a huge bubble of light surrounding you (and your business too if you like). Its purpose is to act as a filter to stop negative energy getting to you whilst still allowing the positive energy of well-meant advice and inspiration to reach you.

This post was inspired by my recent WiRE Network talk “Creating a Business with Soul” and is an introduction to the work I offer my clients through workshops and 1:1 mentoring sessions to find their soul purpose and create a business that nurtures them.


An Invitation to Connect More Deeply

I just love reading, and finding a great new book is one of my greatest pleasures. I am forever quoting amazing authors and give my students a seemingly endless list of ‘must reads’ – they must think I live with my head in a book and they’d not be far wrong.

Now I want to share some of the brillant books that fill my shelves and my heart to inspire you, and the very first book is one that I have loved and read over and over again since I first heard the poem when I started my crystal therapy training.

“The Invitation” is a soul-deep poem written by Oriah Mountain Dreamer after she attended a soul-less dinner party, and it reads:

The InvitationIt doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon…
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.
It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

The poem sends shivers down my spine and each time I read it I get something new – and almost always shed a few tears. It is now a core component of both my crystal therapy courses and my Desire Map workshops!

The book itself explores each stanza of the poem in great detail and I find there is always a part of the poem that speaks to me.

A book to help you rediscover your own inner longing. I’d love to hear your thoughts about the poem and the book too if you’ve read it…

H x

Feeling Positive

Isn’t it interesting how we tend to say “think positive” to someone who is feeling low when what we should really be saying is “feel positive”?

So, as I look at life in a new way, thinking positive just doesn’t cut it for me anymore; without feeling positive, the shift into a better energy state just doesn’t happen.  And I’m all about the energy – it has to feel right, to resonate with my soul to make me want to change what I am doing for the better.

Every morning I ask myself “how do I want to feel today”.  I have a list of five or so feelings that I know make my heart sing and my soul dance so I go for them.  Then I try to make sure my day includes activities – however small – that fulfill these needs.  I’m still new at this but it is making a huge difference to someone who often felt defeated even before I got out of bed!

Today I ‘connected’ with a friend I miss terribly as they live on the other side of the world.  That 10 minute message conversation made both of us smile and touched me dearly to know we are still so close, even though we are 10,000 miles apart.  Listening to a CD we both love later in the car was another way to acknowledge my feelings and make me smile.

I also remained ‘authentic’ to myself when a friend at my sons’ school asked if I could make them something but I knew I would feel resentful if I took it on (blinds are just not my thing).  So I said “no” (an amazing achievement for me!) and helped them find the information they needed to make it happen another way.

I’m no expert at this stuff, but I am honestly a happier, healthier and more in sync with my soul when I ‘feel positive’ instead of just thinking it….

If you’re wondering where all this new feeling is coming from, then check out my earlier post on The Desire Map and take a look at Danielle LaPorte’s amazing program for yourself.  I am truly changing my life one small step at a time and loving every soul-searching minute of it. H x

How The Desire Map is changing my life

We are now well into June and one of my goals for 2013 was to write more blog posts…  It just wasn’t happening and I was beating myself up about it.  That only seemed to make it worse and so started a vicious cycle…  You get the picture.

But then something amazing happened.  I happened to be scrolling through my Facebook posts and saw that an inspiring lady called Danielle LaPorte was sharing her program called The Desire Map.  I am an avid reader and student and a ‘self-help’ groupie too (as you will see from some of my earlier posts on my favourite books) so I headed to her website, read the introduction and thought it sounded like just what I needed – anything to help me get out of my writing rut.

What can I say?  I am only part way through the book and workbook but have already felt an enormous weight lifted from my shoulders.  Danielle has written The Desire Map as a holistic approach to planning your life.  It guides you to identify your core desired feelings, and to use those feelings as the drivers of what you want to do, have and experience in your life.  In effect it turns goal-setting inside out, and that’s what I really like about it.  As well as the fact that she realises that most of us have really busy lives and won’t get all the exercises and reading done in a day or two!  I feel that she’s given me permission to work this around my young children, my businesses and other commitments.

I’ve already joined The Desire Map Facebook Group and even found myself as the joint Admin of a new UK Desire Map Facebook group, I’m busy mapping my Core Desire Feelings (CDFs) and although it’s only been a matter of weeks, my husband and friends are already seeing and commenting on how differently I approach almost everything.  I feel motivated to blog again (one of my CDFs is being ‘Connected’) and hope to write about the inspiring way this multimedia program is really changing my life for the better.  I am learning so much so quickly and it’s great.

Here’s to living with life-affirming goals that really do resonate with my soul!  x